Lessons My Dogs Have Taught Me About Connection and Presence
Therapy has taught me a lot about connection, compassion, and presence—but so have my dogs.
I share my life with three incredible pups: Red, Jam, and Bodhi. Each of them, in their own way, has become a teacher. They remind me every single day how to slow down, listen deeply, and show up with love—without judgment or distraction.
Love Without Conditions
My dogs don't care how productive my day was, what I look like, or whether I have the right words. They greet me with joy, offer comfort without hesitation, and love me in all my moods. Their presence reminds me what it means to be accepted just as I am—and how powerful it can be to offer that same kind of acceptance to others.
Compassion, Not Control
Dogs don’t ask us to be perfect. They ask us to be present. Red, Jam, and Bodhi have taught me that compassion works better than correction. Whether they’ve made a mess or are struggling with anxiety (yes, dogs feel it too), I’ve learned to meet them with patience and understanding. It’s a lesson I carry with me into my work—with kids, adults, and families.
The Power of Presence
One of the biggest lessons they’ve taught me? Put down the phone. My dogs live in the moment—whether it’s a run on the beach, a nap in the sun, or a quiet evening snuggled on the couch. They don’t rush to the next thing. They’re not worried about checking boxes. They’re just here. And when I’m with them, I’m reminded to be here, too.
Connection Is Simple
Sometimes we overcomplicate connection. We think we need to say the perfect thing or solve the problem. But often, the best gift we can offer—whether to a child, a friend, or ourselves—is simply to be fully present. To sit, listen, and say with our presence: I’m here. I see you. I care.
Red, Jam, and Bodhi don’t know they’re teaching me anything. They’re just being themselves. But through that, they’ve shown me how to love better, listen better, and live a little more like them—with open hearts and wagging tails.
Warmly,
Abbey Vince, AMFT
