You Don’t Always Need a “Problem” to Come to Therapy
Here’s a secret most therapists will tell you (but maybe not loudly enough):
You don’t have to be falling apart to go to therapy.
Seriously. You don’t need to wait until your world is crumbling, your relationship is on fire, or you’ve run out of coping strategies. You can come to therapy just because. Just because you’re human. Just because it feels good to talk. Just because you want a space that’s yours—no performance, no judgment, no pressure to have it all figured out.
Therapy Is Just... a Conversation (But One That’s Totally Yours)
Therapy isn’t a test you need to study for. You don’t have to come with a neat little list of issues to fix. You can show up and talk about your dog. Your weird dream. Your complicated relationship with productivity. The way your favorite song lyric keeps following you around this week.
Sometimes, the conversation flows toward something deeper. Sometimes, it doesn’t. Both are welcome.
My job as a therapist isn’t to analyze you or fix you. It’s to be with you—curious, supportive, and fully present. We’re having a conversation, yes, but one where your thoughts and feelings get to matter. One where you don’t have to explain yourself. One where the rules are kinder and the pauses are respected.
Judgment-Free? Really?
Yes. Really. I’m not here to grade your life choices. You won’t disappoint me if you’re stuck or confused or feeling petty or numb or excited about something that doesn’t make sense to anyone else.
Most of us are walking around with an inner critic that’s already loud enough. Therapy shouldn’t be another voice telling you how to be better—it should be a space where you can just be.
And in that space, something amazing often happens:
You start to hear yourself more clearly.
You remember things you forgot mattered.
You discover stories you didn’t know you were carrying.
Not Having a Crisis Is a Perfect Time to Come
You know how people go to the gym to stay healthy—not just when they’ve pulled a muscle? Therapy can work the same way. Coming when you’re not in a crisis means we have time to explore the deeper stuff, the good stuff—the quiet patterns, the identity shifts, the dreams that haven’t had room to stretch.
Some weeks might feel uneventful. That’s okay. Sometimes therapy is full of insights, and sometimes it’s just a place where you exhale, unfiltered.
That exhale alone can change everything.
Therapy for the Ordinary Moments
So here’s your permission slip: You don’t need to be broken. You don’t need to have a diagnosis. You don’t need to impress me with your emotional awareness.
You can come to therapy because you’re curious. Or lonely. Or overwhelmed. Or content, but craving more depth. Or just... because talking to someone who listens deeply feels kind of nice.
I’m here for all of it.
Curious about starting therapy?
Whether you have a million things on your mind or none at all, I offer a space for real, meaningful conversation—where you don’t have to perform, fix, or explain. Just come as you are. That’s more than enough.
Warmly,
Abbey Vince, AMFT
